Sunday, October 12, 2008

Long time no see

Wow! I can't believe it's been a month since I posted anything.

Ike was frightening. My mom, Muffin and I went to a friend's on Friday, the day the storm hit. We stayed there during the storm and for the two days after - with no electricity. I think if I'd been by myself it might have been OK, but it was hard keeping the girls amused. The EX actually did a good thing. He suggested that Muffin spend the storm with me, even though it was technically his weekend. That sure helped. I knew she was safe. Long story short - after nine days out of my home because I had no electricity (but some friends did) I finally got to spend the night in my own bed. No serious damage - mainly roof shingles and a thousand dollars worth of food in my freezer.

Now if I could just a roofer to come give me an estimate on the damage!

Making lemons out of lemonade - the overcrowded freezer was making me crazy. Now it's completely clean and organized!

The divorce was final just after the storm. I don't even know the date.

The EX has turned a corner. He's not remotely interested in being my friend of having a positive relationship with me. He will only discuss the Muffin. I've tried so many times I've lost count to have him address where we are so we can move forward. Silly me! He wouldn't address it while we were married. Why should he do so now??

Actually, I'm learning to accept things. My marriage is over, and a new chapter of my life has begun. The EX firmly believes that nothing he and the woman did was wrong, inappropriate or disrespectful. In fact, she keeps threatening to sue me if I imply that there was. Yeah. Right. Two problems with that. First, she has to prove "harm" - and nobody she knows has spoken to me. Second, she has to prove what I'm saying is untrue. Big Ha! The two of them professed their love for each other in March. They made a bet involving whipped cream, handcuffs and champagne in April. And on and on and on. I'm simply stating facts.

As for accepting things. I am. This is the reality of my life - part of which is accepting that the ex is not going to be in it at all. That means I can make new friends and fill that hole in my world another way. Does it still hurt? Sure. But I'm also accepting that a) this hurts; b) it's going to hurt for a long time; and c) I can get through this with the help of all my loving friends!!